Rachael Ray opens up about her marriage and unconventional relationship tips

Rachael Ray, the famous chef and TV personality, has shared some personal details about her marriage with her husband, John Cusimano. 

On her podcast, "I'll Sleep When I'm Dead," she opened up about how they make their relationship work in a unique and honest way. Ray and Cusimano have been married for almost 20 years, and in the third episode of her podcast, she invited French chef Jacques Pépin to talk about relationships.

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During their conversation, Ray explained how she and John balance each other out despite their very different careers. 

John is a lawyer and a musician, while Ray is neither. She said she’s not a lawyer and doesn’t like dealing with legal papers, which is where John helps her. Ray also shared that she’s not a musician, but John’s musical skills add a special layer to their relationship.

According to Ray, their marriage works because they are open to different worlds and support each other in their own ways. She also mentioned that they enjoy being able to speak their minds and share their true feelings, which she believes is important for a strong partnership.

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Rachael and John married in Italy in 2005. They later renewed their vows in 2015 at the same castle in Tuscany where they first got married. 

Ray credits her husband for being an essential part of her success, both in her personal life and her career. She said, “John works with me and has built our business and our brand together.” 

The couple shares common values, especially in their commitment to community service. Ray said that marrying John was important to her because she believed he could be a true partner in her efforts to help people and build a community, not just a business.

This isn’t the first time Ray has discussed her relationship with John on her podcast, which launched in October. 

In the very first episode, Ray spoke about how their relationship thrives on understanding each other’s need for space. She explained that she’s “wildly lucky” to have John, but they both recognize the importance of giving each other room. She added that their relationship works because they aren’t afraid to argue and confront problems head-on.

Ray shared that she and John don’t believe in avoiding conflict. “It’s very hard, especially for hot-tempered or creative people, to just calm it down,” she explained. Ray says that instead of staying quiet, she prefers to get everything out in the open. She and John have “huge screaming matches” often, but she believes that’s healthy for their relationship. She even mentioned that she doesn’t trust people who keep things bottled up.

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After an argument, Ray says she and John have a unique way of making up. Instead of saying sorry, they show affection in their own quirky way. 

“I don’t know that we ever apologize to each other,” Ray said. “Eventually, I pat him on his a--, or he kisses me on the head, and that’s just sort of it.” For them, it’s all about showing love and understanding without the need for formal apologies.

Ray’s open and honest approach to her marriage with John Cusimano provides a refreshing perspective on relationships. By balancing each other’s strengths, giving each other space, and handling conflicts directly, Ray and John show that love doesn’t always follow traditional rules. It’s about finding what works best for each person and communicating openly to build a strong, lasting partnership.